You met this amazing guy about a year back.
Things went from casual to serious pretty fast.
But then, his interest started to fade, and he ended up breaking up with you about a month ago. It feels like this keeps happening to you.
It made you wonder how to keep a guy wanting more and stay interested.
Give these tips a try next time, and you should get great results.
1. Seduce Him Smoothly
Seduction is like an art, you know?
Lots of women try too hard when they’re trying to seduce someone. They come on too strong, and it can push the guy away.
Think about two things we know about guys:
- One, they really like what they see, so looking good matters.
- And two, they’re into a challenge, something they can’t easily have.
To seduce him, mix these two things:
Be a bit mysterious sometimes, but also look super attractive.
Too much or too little sex can cause problems in relationships. When one person wants it more than the other, it can create weird feelings.
Remember, absence can make feelings stronger.
Saving sex and seduction for special times adds excitement and mystery to your relationship. He’ll keep coming back for more. You can trust on these words.
Read: 100 Romantic Ways To Love Your Husband
2. Smell Great
You want this article’s advice to be practical. Many dating tips are too theoretical, but this one is about real actions you can take to make your guy want you more.
Here’s a great tip:
Get yourself some lovely perfume and dab it on your wrists. Choose a light scent that excites his sense of smell and makes him tingle with anticipation.
Men don’t just rely on their eyes; they’re also very influenced by smells.
Smell is closely linked to memories, strong feelings, and sexual attraction.
“Guys easily connect with certain smells.
As a woman, always wear a nice-smelling perfume. Don’t overwhelm your guy, but always smell fresh so he’ll be drawn to you forever!”
One thing to remember: don’t overdo it.
Like seduction, scent works best when it’s just a hint of magic.
Just enough to keep him craving more.
3. Understand Your Worth
You need to understand how valuable you are, and you need to stand up for yourself.
Understanding your self-worth is crucial in maintaining a guy’s interest because it affects how you carry yourself in the relationship.
When you know your own value, you’re less likely to settle for less than you deserve. This confidence is attractive and can make you more appealing to him.
It also helps you set boundaries and communicate your needs effectively, which fosters a healthy dynamic in the relationship.
Knowing your self-worth also helps you attract the right kind of partner.
When you value yourself, you’re less likely to settle for someone who doesn’t treat you with respect or appreciation. Instead, you’ll attract partners who see your worth and value you for who you are. This leads to more fulfilling and mutually satisfying relationships.
Read: 15 Signs Your Man Loves You More Than Himself
4. Share his interests
If you want to know how to keep a guy wanting more, look at what gets him excited. It’s not necessarily his car or truck, although that could be one thing.
- Think about the hobbies, passions, and interests that make him really happy.
- What makes him talk a lot and get all into it?
- What makes his eyes light up (besides anything sexual)?
These are the things you can support and sometimes join in to get closer to him.
Guys don’t want a partner who’s just into doing activities together, but they also don’t want someone who doesn’t care about what they love.
If he’s really into something like politics and you find it boring, it can be tricky.
But try to find at least one thing you both like.
Maybe you both enjoy political comedy shows or have a favorite political couple.
Guys love it when a girl shows interest in their hobbies, whether it’s playing Xbox or climbing mountains. They want to be with someone who gets them and connects with them.
5. Keep Conversations Lively and Fun
There’s a wrong idea that guys don’t find smart talk exciting. But that’s not true. Even strong couples break up just because they couldn’t have good conversations.
A lot of the time, attraction happens in the mind, for both guys and girls. When your talks become boring or too predictable, it could be the start of the end.
If you want to keep a guy wanting more, think about your talks with him.
Are they really interesting or just surface-level?
Sometimes, you might avoid certain topics to prevent arguments. But, honestly, it’s okay to argue sometimes. In the big picture, being honest and talking openly is better than hiding your thoughts and feelings. So, don’t be afraid to talk things out.
Try talking about current events, challenges in your lives, stuff happening nearby, or even deep stuff like philosophy and life values.
It’ll bring you closer and help you see if you’re a good match.
6. Avoid Being Too Clingy
Neediness is like a bad habit. The more you do it, the harder it is to stop. It feeds on feelings of not being good enough and pushes away partners.
But why is it so tough to shake?
Many top psychologists think it’s because we learned to be needy when we were babies and kids. When we didn’t get what we needed, we cried.
The problem is, lots of us didn’t grow out of it as we got older.
We just changed it a bit, but the idea that the world owes us something stuck around.
And that’s poison for relationships.
So, if you want to keep a guy wanting more, try to be independent. Have your own life, values, and interests. Don’t base your worth on someone else — it never works out well.
It might seem strange, but in love, the more you have your own stuff going on, the more people want to be part of it.
Showing your man that you don’t need him will make him respect you more. If you act like you can’t live without him, he won’t feel like he has to work for your love. And then he might lose respect for you.
Read: 8 Signs Your Boyfriend Thinks You’re Clingy
7. Spice Up Your Intimacy
If a guy feels like you’re ignoring him sexually, he might lose interest.
But if he sees you only as a sexual adventure, the relationship might not last.
The key is to make sex amazing, but not too often.
You want him to be so satisfied that he can’t help but want to be with you. You want him to only have eyes for you, not other girls, because he’s so turned on by you.
The best way to get better at sex is to practice.
If you have good chemistry and a strong connection, time in bed can be really enjoyable.
As you keep building that sexual connection, trying new things and learning about each other, exciting things will happen automatically.
8. Take It Slow
One of the worst things you can do in love is to rush in too soon.
Many of your friends might have made the same mistake. They meet a guy, they like him, and they give him their heart without thinking twice. But whether it’s a month later or two years, they end up feeling miserable and hopeless.
When you meet someone you really like, it’s hard not to want to be with them all the time or text them every few minutes. But doing that can actually ruin the relationship.
That inner feeling of needing someone to complete you can make things worse, both inside and outside. Instead of coming closer, he might run away.
Instead of working out, things fall apart.
So, let a guy win you over slowly. And, even when he’s your one and only, don’t let him control how you feel about yourself or your future.
Many women act like they’re in a relationship before they are.
They think that by showing him how great they’ll be as a girlfriend, he’ll make it official.
But that’s not always true.
9. Connect With His Circle
You might never become just “one of the guys,” but it’s good to become friends with his friends.
Guys want someone who’s part of different parts of their life, not just one. They also need guy time sometimes.
So, try to spend time with him in social situations with more people around.
It’ll show him that you’re serious about the relationship.
You could go to a pub, watch a sports game, or join his family for a barbecue.
Being open to spending time with his friends or family is really nice and attractive. It shows him that you care about the people he cares about, and that’s important for keeping him around!
10. Play A Little Hard To Get
Being completely unavailable won’t help you at all.
But playing a little hard to get can work wonders.
Setting boundaries is important. For example, if he calls you late at night just to hang out, say no. That’s not a real date — it’s just a casual thing.
There are two main ways to play hard to get. The first way is to be a bit hot and cold. Flirt with him, then act a bit distant when he tries to get closer. The second way is to be consistently cool, showing only small signs of interest or appreciation.
The first way can really make a guy want you more. He’ll be intrigued by your affection and want you even more when you seem less interested.
But it might also make him feel a bit unsure about you.
The second way gives you more control in the relationship. You show less interest and focus on your own life, which can drive him crazy.
But he might start to wonder if you really like him.
Playing hard to get can be powerful.
It might not always work perfectly, but it can bring big rewards if you use it wisely.
11. Showcase Your Intelligence
Guys are attracted to intelligence too.
These days, it’s trendy to talk about being sapiosexual, which means being attracted to intelligence. And there are plenty of guys who feel the same way.
That doesn’t mean they don’t like to look at nice cleavage like any straight guy, but they definitely appreciate what’s in your head too. It can be really refreshing.
So, if you’re building a strong connection with your guy, try showing him your smarts.
Let him see your knowledge of things like astrophysics. There’s something really attractive about hearing someone you care about talk about Mercury or love sonnets.
Many guys are drawn to smart women.
This is especially true for guys who might not be the sharpest. They really like being around women who are smarter than them. If you come across as intelligent and well-read, guys are more likely to be interested in you and see a future together.
12. Demonstrate Your Understanding of Him
One of the best ways to keep a guy wanting more is to show him that you understand him. Using his name is a simple way to show that you’re talking directly to him, not just anyone.
Think about what’s important to him, the experiences he’s had, and the beliefs he holds.
Talk about these things from time to time. It shows that you’ve been paying attention and that you care about what he cares about.
Even if you don’t always agree, showing that you understand him and what drives him is important. He’ll feel your care and the effort you put into listening to him, and he’ll appreciate it. If you do this around his friends sometimes, it’s even better. He’ll see that you support him in front of his buddies, and he’ll remember that.
13. Use Eye Contact
Eye contact is one of those things that’s hard to explain, but it can have a big impact. Eyes are really powerful, and making eye contact is like a secret weapon in love.
Look deeply into your man’s eyes to build a strong connection, even though it’s invisible. This connection is the foundation of a good relationship.
Your lingering gaze will tell him you’re really into him.
Making eye contact also shows you want him to make the first move, like kissing you.
But make sure it’s flirty, not creepy or too intense.
That’s important.
Because you don’t want your guy to feel like you’re trying to get him to join a cult or something. You just want him to see you as a beautiful woman whose eyes he loves looking into.
14. Pursue Your Own Passions
Men enjoy being the center of attention sometimes. But if you want to keep a guy interested, you need to focus on building your own life.
Have passions and interests outside of your relationship with him. If you love your job, work on improving your skills to become the person you want to be.
If you have hobbies you enjoy, keep doing them.
Make time for things like salsa classes, even if it means fewer dates with him.
Don’t try too hard to please everyone.
Guys can tell when you’re being too needy or not valuing yourself enough.
Focus on your own life and passions, and let him be a part of it when he wants to be. Remember, men like a challenge. By staying busy with your own things, he’ll see that he needs to step up his game. This challenge will make him more interested and want to commit.
15. Avoid Being Overly Critical
Men these days don’t have the same power they used to.
They’re going to college less and struggling with their mental health. They’re also having a hard time finding their place in society.
Now, the same could be true for many women, but…
Some women are too tough on guys because they’re independent and assertive.
While it’s good not to let men off the hook too easily and make them work for it, it’s also important to let them feel like men.
When you criticize them for every little thing or tease them too much, it can hurt their confidence and interest in you.
Men like to know they can make you happy and take care of you.
It’s attractive to be a little demanding.
But if you’re impossible to please, they’ll get frustrated.
Most of the time, a woman who’s too tough causes a man to move on and find someone else who appreciates him more.
16. Nail Your Texting Style
No guide on keeping a guy interested would be complete without talking about texting. Whether it’s Instagram, Facebook, or regular texting, it’s important to use it the right way.
Don’t make the mistake of texting nonstop, even at work. Don’t reply to every message quickly, adding emojis for extra effect. But this is too much.
That’s not the right way to do it.
Keep track of how long it takes him to reply to your text, and don’t respond quicker than he does. It’s not attractive to seem like you have nothing else going on.
You don’t want to always be available whenever he texts.
So, try to slow down. Take your time before replying.
Focus on what you’re doing and take breaks from your phone.
You could even try going for a walk without your phone sometimes (as long as you’re in a safe area and don’t need it for emergencies).
17. Keep Some Mystery
Guys don’t like to feel like they’re being toyed with, but they do enjoy a challenge.
Men like to put in some effort to win over the woman they like. Even after they know they’ve caught your interest, they still want to feel a bit of tension, wondering if they could lose it.
When it comes to getting to know you and building a deeper connection, they want it to be like exploring for treasure. They want to work for the valuable parts they discover.
So, don’t reveal everything about yourself right away.
Even if you’re a direct person, try to hold back a bit.
A man will keep wanting more if you share some but not all of yourself with him.
Open communication is important. But, taking your time to get to know each other is also valuable. Real relationships grow slowly and authentically. It’s not about sharing everything all at once; it’s about discovering each other over time.
If your connection is real, it will happen naturally. Don’t rush the process!
Wrapping Up
By using these tips, you’ll naturally want to know if they’re working or not. To see if he’s interested, try not contacting him for a few days and see what happens.
If he messages you or tries to get in touch, then he’s at least somewhat interested.
And if he starts giving you gifts, compliments, and offering to help, then you know he’s really interested. He sees you as someone worth investing time and effort into. It’s a clear sign that your approach is working and that he’s drawn to your personality and presence.
But remember, the goal isn’t just to keep him interested, it’s also about maintaining your own sense of self-worth and independence. Don’t lose sight of your own priorities and interests in the process of building a connection with someone else.
Ultimately, the key to success in any relationship is authenticity.
Be true to yourself, take things at a pace that feels right for you, and don’t be afraid to set boundaries when needed. If he’s the right person for you, he’ll appreciate you.
So, keep being your amazing self, and let things unfold naturally.
Whether he’s hooked or not, what matters most is that you’re staying true to yourself and enjoying the journey of getting to know someone new.
