You might have noticed that if you’re a sensitive and creative person, you often doubt yourself. It’s not smooth sailing, especially when it comes to romance.
But it’s crucial to know how someone who genuinely cares about you will behave. There are lots of people out there pretending or just looking for a short-term thing.
So, here’s how you can tell if a man genuinely wants you for the long haul, not just a temporary fling.
1. He’ll Make You Laugh to Make Your Day Better
If a man wants you to be part of his life, he’ll work to make your days better than they would be otherwise.
Even if he’s not naturally funny, he’ll try his best to send you something amusing or at least bring a smile to your face when he’s with you.
He’ll have a knack for touching your heart and warming you up, even when it’s chilly outside.
A man who truly wants you isn’t just trying to impress you or win you over; he genuinely cares about making your life happier.
His actions, jokes, and how he behaves will show that he cares about you more than just himself.
When a man loves you, he’ll want to make you laugh. And deep down, that’s something really important for you in a man.
The reason women value a good sense of humor is that it shows intelligence and adaptability in a man.
That kind of understanding in a man means a lot for a woman’s happiness.
2. He Makes An Effort To Hang Out With You
If a guy really wants you around, he’ll make the effort to spend time with you.
Even if he’s super busy, he’ll carve out time and energy just to be with you.
You’ll notice that he’s fully focused on you when you’re together and talking.
When a man is only interested in a fling or sex, he might keep you as a backup plan.
But when he truly wants you in his life for the long term, he’ll make the effort to hang out with you and be present.
It might not always be a big deal, but you’ll definitely notice it.
3. He Finds Reasons To Talk To You Even If It Seems Random
Sometimes it’s hard to know what to talk about, even with someone you really like.
But if a man wants you to be part of his life, he’ll make the effort to talk to you, even if it seems random.
He’ll want to keep that connection going.
If he sends you random messages on social media or texts you about something totally unexpected, it’s a good sign he likes you.
It’s kind of cute, don’t you think?
4. He’ll Remember What You Tell Him – Even The Small Details
Guys might not always listen well, but when they really care, they’ll pay attention and remember what you say.
If a man wants you in his life, he’ll remember everything you tell him, even the little things and the stuff that’s a bit unusual.
It might sound obvious, but it’s worth highlighting:
When someone cares about you, they care about what you say.
It’s really as simple as that.
5. He’s Caring And Generous In Bed And It Clearly Means Something To Him
You might have come across a guy who’s only focused on himself in bed, and once he’s done, he’s out like a light.
But a man who truly wants you in his life won’t act like this.
He’ll care about your pleasure and enjoy spending time chatting and cuddling as much as being intimate.
When he’s only interested in a quick fling, you can be sure he’s not serious about you. But when it’s more than just that to him, then he’s definitely interested in more.
As Dagmar Thomson explains:
“If the guy you’re dating doesn’t show any emotional connection with you in bed, it’s a clear sign he’s just there for the sex. He won’t stick around after, and you might only get a kiss on the forehead. He might leave without saying goodbye or even giving you that kiss on the forehead.”
6. He Doesn’t Judge And Shame You For Your Flaws
None of us are perfect, and a guy who truly wants you around will understand that and support you.
He’ll love you just the way you are.
And if you’re not already in a relationship, you might soon be.
While he might encourage you to grow and be honest about things he’s not fond of, he’ll never put you down for your struggles.
This is one of the key ways to know if a man really wants you in his life.
When he does, you’ll feel valued and confident that he won’t push you away or treat you poorly because of your imperfections.
7. He Puts You First And Makes It Clear You Matter To Him
Life is full of choices about what matters most.
If a guy wants you to be a part of his life, he’ll prioritize you.
He may not quit his job or abandon everything in an emergency to be with you. But regularly and consistently, he’ll show that you’re more important to him than just anyone else.
He’ll prove it through his actions – not just his words – that you mean a lot to him and he’s willing to go the extra mile to support you and be there for you.
He won’t make you feel like you’re second or last; he’ll make you feel like you’re first because you are. He’ll discuss decisions with you and consider your life goals.
8. He’ll Open Up To You About His Dark Side And The Worst Parts Of His Past
A guy who just wants a short fling or a one-sided relationship will only show you his good side.
After spending a week or two with him, you might think he’s almost like an angel.
It seems too perfect! (because it is).
But if a man wants you to be a part of his life, he won’t hide his flaws from you.
He may not start telling you about bad things he’s done on your second date (and let’s hope he never has). But slowly and surely, he’ll admit that he’s not perfect.
He’ll be honest about where he disagrees with you.
And he’ll also talk about his mistakes, past relationships, and what’s going on in his life right now.
Because you can’t really have a real relationship without being honest and open.
9. He’s Really There For You When The Chips Are Down
There’s something tricky that happens with a nice guy.
He’s always there for you, being a great man.
You start to really like him and depend on him.
Then, when something goes wrong, he’s suddenly not around!
The thing is, if a guy wants you to be part of his life, he won’t just be there when things are easy. He’ll stick by you even when things get tough.
He’ll be your biggest supporter through all the good times and bad.
- He reminds you how amazing you are when you forget.
- He defends you when others try to bring you down.
- He takes care of you when you’re tired, and he appreciates how hard you work.
10. He Likes Your Posts And Comments On Social Media
If a man wants you to be a part of his life, he’ll also want to be part of your online social life.
He’ll like your posts, comment on what you say, and interact with you often.
This doesn’t mean he’ll be over-the-top and worship everything you post with heart emojis.
But you’ll notice that he’s paying attention to your social media and cares about what you share.
11. Your Views And Beliefs Matter A Lot To Him And He Wants To Know More
If a guy wants you to be part of his life, he’ll be really interested in your beliefs and why you believe them.
It’s not that he’ll always agree with you.
But he’ll definitely want to understand, and if he’s a confident guy who’s worth your time, he’ll also be honest about where he disagrees with you.
A guy who doesn’t value himself much might pretend to agree with everything you say just to get your approval.
But a man who’s worth your time and wants something serious with you will be honest about who he is and want to understand who you really are, because he wants something genuine, not just superficial.
12. He’ll Want To Commit And Be Open To The Idea Even If The Timing Is Tricky
Not every guy is looking for commitment, and that’s okay.
But if a man wants you to be part of his life, he’ll at least be willing to talk about commitment with you.
He might have his own concerns about it, but the idea won’t scare him off.
When he really loves you, he won’t automatically freak out at the thought of taking things more seriously or settling down.
If you want a man to commit to a relationship title, it’s not that difficult if he’s already in love with you. In fact, he might even want to call you his girlfriend and include you in his future plans. Some might even agree to marriage or engagement fairly quickly.
13. He Introduces You To Close Friends And Family
This is a really important way to know if a guy wants you in his life.
When he wants something more serious, he’ll introduce you to his close friends and family.
He’ll do this because you mean a lot to him, and he wants you to meet the people who are important to him and care about him.
14. He Goes Out Of His Way To Make Sure You’re Ok And Care For You
If a man wants you in his life, he’ll make sure you’re okay and take care of you.
If you’re feeling sick while you’re out, he’ll take you home and cancel any other plans for the evening.
And if you share a concern with him, he’ll really listen and think about what you’re saying.
15. He Sees You As His ‘one And Only’ And Doesn’t Want Anyone Else
If a guy wants you to be in his life, he’ll want you to understand that you’re enough for him.
It’s not about him trying to prove he’s a good man or winning you over.
It’s about how he truly feels.
Because when he really feels you’re the one for him, he’ll make it clear he’s not interested in anyone else.
Relationship counselor Nick Bastion gives some great insight on this:
“On the flip side, if a man sees you as ‘the one,’ then everything goes in your favor, and he’ll end up pursuing you. Instead of seeing you as someone trying to ‘tie him down’ and trap him, he sees you as his perfect match.”
16. He’ll Let You Know He’s Thinking Of You During The Day
When a man really likes you, he’ll show it.
Even if he doesn’t say it outright, he’ll send you messages and let you know he’s thinking about you sometimes.
It’s a nice thing to do, and it’ll make you feel appreciated and cared for, just like you should.
Bastion also talks about this in his writing.
17. He’ll Broaden His Skills For You, Including In The Kitchen
If a man wants you to be in his life, he’ll work on improving himself.
He’ll feel motivated by you and his desire to be with you.
This might mean trying out new hobbies and learning new skills.
For instance, he might start doing yoga or decide he wants to become better at cooking.
Even guys who aren’t great in the kitchen will try to cook for the woman they love.
18. He Puts You First Even In Situations Where It Takes Extra Energy
A guy who wants to get serious with you won’t treat you as a second option.
He’ll prioritize you, even when it’s tough.
He’ll make an effort to stand up for you and ensure you’re safe and happy whenever you’re together.
And if you’ve experienced a man pulling away before, chasing him won’t bring him back.
The worst thing you can do is try to convince a man to come back to you after he’s decided to pull away. His mind is set on pulling away, so if you resist, it’ll only create tension, which is the last thing you want. You need to let him go to have a chance of getting him back and act like you don’t care. You’ll have more success that way.
19. He’ll Pull Out All The Stops To Win Your Attraction And Respect
If a man wants you in his life, he’ll try hard to show you he’s worth it.
Nowadays, women have lots of options for partners.
So, he knows he has to clearly show you he’s valuable if he wants you to be interested in him.
It’s not about money or social status.
It’s his true character and the things he does in life.
20. He’ll Want To Help You And Protect You
When a man truly cares about you and sees you in his future, he’ll want to support and keep you safe.
Women are becoming more independent, and you might not think you need that.
But the fact is, activating his hero instinct is a really effective way to make him want to commit and see you as his partner.
Men like feeling needed.
They want to be helpful.
If they offer to help you with something, they’re really into you.
