Are you wondering if he loves you?
When we talk about love, we often picture spending lots of time together.
But love doesn’t look the same for everyone.
If you’re dating a guy who’s always busy, it can be tricky to figure out if he truly loves you.
Here are 15 signs to watch out for that show he really cares about you (even if he shows it in his own way).
1. He Always Contacts You
Even if you’re not together all the time, your guy always makes sure to send you a text or give you a call.
You don’t have to wait anxiously for him to reply to your messages.
He might ask about your day or simply check in on you. A man who takes time out of his busy schedule just to see how you’re doing is someone who cares.
He genuinely wants to know about you.
Yes, he’s busy, but he still loves and cares about you.
2. He Wants Your Opinion
Does your guy ask you for advice?
Whether he’s choosing a new work shirt or deciding on his next career step, you’re the one he turns to for all kinds of problems, big or small.
It’s clear he values both you and what you think.
He’s not just using you.
He genuinely cares about you and what you think, so much so that he makes time in his busy life to ask for your input.
After all, he wouldn’t bother asking for your opinion if he didn’t really want to hear it.
This is a strong sign that he respects and trusts you.
Love is in the air, and he’s in it for the long haul.
3. He Tells You He Misses You
If your guy keeps saying he misses you and wants to spend time with you, it’s a great sign he truly loves you.
If he didn’t really care, he wouldn’t bother pretending. He’d just say he’s busy and leave it at that.
How can you be sure?
If he’s making time for you whenever he can, then he’s genuine. He’s trying to be with you as much as possible despite his busy schedule.
Maybe you only see him once a week when he’s busy. But when he’s free, you see him three or more times a week. This shows he loves you but is just busy.
4. He Initiates The Dates
Are you the one always trying to arrange to meet up with him? Or is it your man who’s taking charge and making sure you both have plans to see each other?
If it’s the second one, then you’ve found a guy who loves you.
Even if he can’t see you as often as you’d both want, he makes sure there’s always a next date planned for you two to enjoy.
This proves he cares and wants the relationship to work. You’re always on his mind, and he shows it by arranging those dates and staying in touch with you regularly.
5. He Loves His Job
Usually, when a guy is busy, it’s because of work.
If he truly loves his job, see it as a good sign — it’s not about you, it’s about his work.
He’s dedicated to his career, maybe even really ambitious, and has a strong motivation to work hard.
This shows he’s committed, and it’ll reflect positively on your relationship too (which is awesome!).
As long as he’s honest with you, see his dedication to work as a positive thing. He’s not avoiding you. He’s just busy doing something he loves and working towards his goals, and he wants you to be part of that journey.
It’s all about love.
6. He’s Open With You
It’s easy to just say you’re busy with life and leave it at that.
But if your man goes out of his way to keep you updated on what’s happening in his life and what’s keeping him busy, that’s a really good sign.
If he makes an effort to tell you about his work, what he’s been up to, and where he is, it shows he loves and cares about you.
He wants you to know he’s not ignoring you. And he’s making that extra effort to show you.
This guy genuinely cares about you and wants you to be part of his life. Appreciate it!
7. He Tells You If His Schedule Clears
When you’re busy, there are often times when things slow down a bit.
If your guy actually texts you and tells you when things quiet down and he has more free time, then you’ve found someone special.
It proves he’s genuinely busy (and not just making excuses), and also that when he has time off, you’re the one he wants to spend it with.
This is a guy you can rely on to stick around.
Clearly, he loves you, even with his busy schedule, and he’s willing to make it work.
8. His Socials Check Out
If you really want to know if he’s actually busy or just making excuses, check out his social media. It’ll give you the truth.
If you see he’s always on social media but doesn’t have time to reply to your texts, he’s not worth your time.
And if you keep seeing pictures of him hanging out with friends instead of spending time with you, it’s clear where you stand in his priorities.
It’s best to move on from this guy.
But if you notice his social media is quiet when he’s busy, and you can tell he hasn’t been active, then he’s probably telling the truth.
He’s genuinely busy but still cares about you.
9. He Remembers The Little Things
You might not be able to see each other as much as you’d both want, but you still get sweet messages during the day that show he cares.
Maybe he’s waiting for coffee and hears someone order the same thing as you, so he texts you about it. Or he sees your favorite flower and sends you a picture because he knows you’d like it.
It’s these little things he remembers about you that really matter.
He truly cares about you and loves you, and he’s showing it even when he can’t be with you.
A guy who isn’t interested wouldn’t bother remembering all these little things unless he really loves you.
So, the next time your guy sends you something sweet, see it as a sign. He remembers because he loves you, and you mean a lot to him.
10. He Supports You
You have your own life and things going on. You probably have dreams about what you want to achieve and who you want to become.
If your guy is right there supporting your dreams every step of the way, then he’s a great partner.
He’s always there to listen when things get tough.
He gives you advice without forcing you to choose one way or another. He’s just helping you and being someone you can talk to.
This guy really cares about you.
He wants you to be happy in everything you do and he’s willing to help you achieve that.
He’s definitely in love with you!
11. He’s Always There For You
Being physically present is only one part of a relationship. Even if he’s busy and can’t always be there in person, he can still support you in other ways.
Is your man emotionally there for you?
If you really need to talk, will he take just 10 minutes out of his day to call you?
Sure, he might not always be able to do this. But you’ll notice whether he’s making that little extra effort for you, to show you he cares.
He’s the kind of guy who will go out of his way to help you, even when it’s not easy for him.
Because he cares about you.
12. You’ve Met The Friends And Family
This is really important.
No matter how busy a guy is, if he’s introducing you to his friends and family, it means he loves you. We all know this is a big deal – no matter how busy he is.
A guy won’t bother with a relationship he doesn’t see a future in.
If he’s already introduced you to his mom, it means he sees a future with you. He loves you.
You’re a big part of his life every day, even if he can’t see you every single day.
13. He Keeps His Promises
We all know life can be busy sometimes.
But if your guy really cares about you, he’ll keep his promises. He won’t be the type to make plans and then cancel them at the last minute because something else comes up.
There’s being busy, and then there’s just being rude.
A busy guy plans things ahead of time.
If he keeps canceling plans, it shows he’s okay with hurting your feelings. That’s not love.
If your guy plans dates in advance and always shows up on time, that’s respect.
He loves you and wants you to know you’re important in his life. If he makes time for you, he’ll spend it with you.
Of course, sometimes things come up. If your plans get canceled, don’t immediately think the worst… unless it happens over and over again.
14. The Sex Life Is Good
Consider how he behaves when he’s with you.
Even if it’s not as often as you’d prefer, is it enjoyable?
Do you feel a connection?
Is the intimacy good?
Does he show passion?
These are signs that there’s something deeper between you.
It’s what distinguishes a casual hookup from real love.
Do you lie in bed together afterward and talk about life? This is a guy who loves you. He wants to be with you. And even if he can’t be with you as much as he wants, he ensures the time you spend together is meaningful.
15. He’s Genuine
It all comes down to trusting your gut feelings about this guy.
Do you feel like he’s being real with you?
When he texts you saying he misses you, or checks in on you, or wishes he could spend more time with you… does it feel sincere to you?
If you don’t think he’s playing games or using you, then trust your instincts.
But if you’re not sure, it might be time to explore the relationship a bit more. Plan another date and talk to him about how you’re feeling, and see how he reacts. This should give you a good idea of where you stand in the relationship.
But for now, if you trust him and he seems genuine, then stick with it.
There’s a good chance he just loves you and is busy.
