Imagine you’re really into someone, thinking they’re awesome in every way.
But then, there’s this one thing that bugs you.
It’s like, they do something that makes you stop and wonder, “Are they even thinking?”
Yep, it happens. Your partner might do stuff that even your friends question, like, “What’s up with that?”
Here are 12 signs that might make you think, “Am I dating an idiot?”
Let’s dive right in!
1. They’re Thoughtless
When you’re dating someone new, the first thing to watch for is how they treat others.
This gives you a hint about how they might treat you in serious situations. Remember, the person you’re dating might still be trying hard to impress you, especially if it’s early days!
So, how do you figure out if they’re not so smart?
For example, if they’re rude to service staff when you’re out together.
Imagine it’s a busy night, and the staff are short-handed: your date decides to yell at them, thinking it makes them look important!
That’s a big sign your date might be an idiot.
Most importantly, it tells you that just because your date is nice to you, it doesn’t mean they’re genuinely kind and caring!
2. They’re Clueless
It might not be a big deal if your partner isn’t always the sharpest tool in the shed!
They could still be nice and caring towards you. Actually, it only matters if it starts to bug you or makes hanging out less fun.
Here’s a scenario where it could be a problem:
Imagine you’re both at the gym, and they’ve forgotten their headphones. So, what do they do? Blast their music from their phone for everyone to hear!
Why? Because they can’t work out without their tunes!
And now, everyone’s giving them (and you) weird looks.
This could be a sign that you’re dating someone not too bright, or at least, not great with common sense…
3. They’re Self-Absorbed
Maybe the guy you’re dating isn’t clueless. Instead, he’s someone who acts like he knows everything and loves giving advice, whether you want it or not!
Wanting to help others isn’t a bad thing.
Especially if you have a lot of knowledge to share!
But sometimes, people who do this just want attention. They’ll brag about their skills whenever they can.
If your date seems too full of themselves, you have to decide if you can put up with it.
Because it’s probably going to keep happening!
4. They Won’t Own Up
Even if your partner isn’t full of themselves, they might still not be so bright. Especially if they never admit when they’re wrong!
Taking responsibility for what we do is important in a relationship. When we mess up, it’s important to admit it and try to do better next time.
But if it keeps happening again and again?
You have to ask yourself why you’re putting up with it! Maybe the guy you’re dating is always late, leaving you to watch the movie alone or wait for him for ages.
That’s a sign he might not be so smart.
He doesn’t realize how much he’s hurting you!
5. They’re Like Kids Emotionally
Not having common sense could mean the person you’re dating isn’t too bright.
Now, let’s talk about another thing: being emotionally immature. It’s more than just not being smart; it’s not caring about how others feel, only caring about themselves.
Maybe they don’t know how to talk to you when there’s a problem, so they pick fights instead. Or when they’re stressed, they ignore you instead of saying they need space.
If they’ve been acting like this, now you understand why things don’t feel right…
6. They’re Stubborn
Now, let’s talk more about being emotionally immature, specifically, selfishness.
One sign that your date might not be too bright is if they always want things their way. You might feel like you’re always giving in to make them happy.
Seems like your partner doesn’t get the idea of compromise!
And compromise is important for relationships to work. It can be tough to realize your partner is selfish, especially if you’re used to always making others happy.
The first step to understanding what’s going on is to notice how often this happens.
If it’s happening too much or you’re feeling unloved, it might be time to end things.
7. They’re Always Not Paying Attention
Is your date always on their phone, texting or answering calls, even when you’re out together?
That’s a clear sign they are idiot.
When people are in a relationship, they should be excited to spend time with their partner, especially if it’s been a while! Unless they’re busy with work or there’s an emergency, there’s no reason to be distracted when you’re together.
You shouldn’t feel like you’re just going through the motions of a relationship, without getting the love and attention you deserve!
You deserve better, and maybe you just need a new partner who understands tha.
8. They Never Start Things
Do you always have to suggest going out on dates?
And does your partner wait for you to message or call first because they’re always busy or somehow “forget” about you?
Consider it.
You feel like you’re not a priority.
And no one wants to feel like they’re not worth the effort!
This is a clear sign that your partner might not be too bright. You feel like you’re the only one making an effort!
9. They Rely on You Too Much
Here’s another sign your date might not be too bright: they expect you to do all the chores and won’t help out around the house!
If that’s the case, it might be time to start thinking about leaving!
Let’s face it.
Those dishes won’t clean themselves.
And you can’t be the only one doing it every time! You need to get them to help out, and if they won’t, maybe it’s time to move on…
10. They’re Still Stuck on Their Ex
This is important. If the person you’re dating keeps talking about their ex, you need to think about what that means for your relationship.
Sure, some folks stay cool with their ex, but they don’t keep bringing them up all the time, especially when they’re starting something new!
Even if things ended badly, it shouldn’t affect your relationship now.
If someone keeps dissing their ex all the time, maybe they were the issue…
11. They Hold Back Love
What if they go even further and stop being affectionate with you?
For instance, they only want to hang out if you do something for them, like have sex?
People who do this want control, and they make you work for their love.
This doesn’t just make them not too bright, it might mean your partner is a narcissist (which can be tricky to spot).
If your date is acting like this, it’s a good time to think about getting out!
12. They Make You Doubt Yourself
If you’re starting to doubt this relationship, it might mean your date isn’t too bright.
But you might wonder, what if it’s me?
Truth is, you’ve got to listen to your instincts.
They can tell you if someone’s worth your time!
Your date might not be dumb, but they might not be the right fit for you.
Does that make sense?
If your instincts are saying something’s off, do yourself a favor and listen to them.
Wrapping Up
So, do you reckon you’re dating someone not too bright?
Now that you’ve seen what it’s like, you might want to think about your relationship and decide if you should stick around or move on!
Even though relationships have their ups and downs, there’s only so much nonsense you can handle!
You might think, “Maybe my friend was onto something.”
Or you might decide to have a chat with your partner.
Either way, you’ve got a plan in mind!
