So, you’ve been staring at your phone for hours, waiting for a text, a call, or even a pigeon with a message strapped to its leg… Anything!
But nada, zilch, zero.
The silence is deafening, and you’re left wondering,
“What on earth is he up to? Did he get swallowed by a black hole? Is he on a quest to find the world’s best pizza and got lost in Italy?”
We’ve all been there!
And let’s face it, it’s not the most pleasant feeling in the world.
In this article, we’re going to explore the 15 best things to do when your Mr. Mysterious decides to pull a disappearing act. So, let’s get started.
1. Do Not Chase Him
Do not chase him. Seriously, resist that urge to blow up his phone with a barrage of texts or show up uninvited at his doorstep with a boombox playing love songs.
Take a deep breath and relax.
It’s not the end of the world just because he hasn’t hit you up lately. Maybe he’s caught up with work, binge-watching a new series, or just taking a social media detox.
Who knows?
Instead of obsessing over why he’s gone MIA, focus on yourself.
Pamper yourself with some self-care, catch up with friends, or dive into that hobby you’ve been neglecting. Remember, you’re fabulous with or without his attention.
And, while you’re at it, why not explore other options? Keep your options open, because who knows, Mr. MIA might just be missing out on something great.
But seriously, don’t make chasing him your full-time job.
You’re not a private investigator, and this isn’t a rom-com where persistence magically wins the day. If he’s interested, he’ll reach out. If not, well, his loss!
2. Find Out If He’s OK
Try reaching out to his friends or family members. They might have some insight into what’s going on with him. Plus, it shows you care without coming off as too clingy.
If that doesn’t work, maybe it’s time to do a little social media stalking (we all do it, don’t deny it). Check his recent posts or activity to see if he’s been online.
But remember, don’t go full FBI agent mode. Keep it casual.
Another option?
Send out a search party! Okay, maybe not an actual search party, but you could organize a casual get-together with mutual friends. Who knows, maybe he’ll show up and spill the beans on what’s been going on.
And if all else fails, just take a deep breath and give it some time.
Sometimes people just need a little space to figure things out.
3. Start Focussing On Yourself
Remember all those hobbies you used to love before he came along and stole your attention? Dust ’em off and dive back in! Whether it’s painting, baking, or even binge-watching your favorite shows, indulge in what makes you happy.
Next up, treat yourself like the queen you are.
Pamper sessions, anyone? Take yourself out for a spa day or indulge in some retail therapy. Who needs a guy when you’ve got a credit card and a killer sense of style?
Oh, and speaking of style, now’s the perfect time to revamp your look.
Experiment with new hairstyles, try out bold makeup looks, or splurge on that outfit you’ve been eyeing for weeks. The world is your runway, baby!
But hey, focusing on yourself isn’t just about external stuff.
It’s also about nurturing your mind and soul. Dive into some self-help books, start a gratitude journal, or even try meditation to find your zen.
4. Don’t Blame Yourself
When things don’t go as planned, sensitive and creative people often blame themselves.
Instead of seeing the situation clearly, they create all sorts of illusions and monsters in their minds.
The truth is, many things could have happened:
- The guy could have met someone else.
- He might not be interested in you.
- He may be dealing with personal problems.
But you might want to blame yourself. Don’t. There’s no special trick or secret formula you missed. It’s not about something specific you did that suddenly turned him off.
5. Pace Yourself
It’s normal to want a text or call from a guy you like.
But it’s not healthy when your happiness depends on it or when you feel really good or bad based on whether he contacts you.
If it’s been 2 weeks without hearing from him, you might be unsure whether to move on or keep hoping.
The choice is yours.
But here’s some advice: If you’re still interested in hearing from him, take it slow. Don’t let your emotions or desire to be with him control you. Keep a part of yourself open to the possibility of something with him in the future.
Remember, patience is important. It helps you see things clearly and stay calm in tough situations. It also gives you inner peace and the ability to stay positive, even when things are challenging.
6. Stay Busy
The worst thing to do after a big disappointment, like not hearing from a guy you like, is to stay stuck on your couch or bed, feeling sad.
Sure, you might want to listen to sad music or watch sad movies for a bit…
But that won’t help you in the long run. It’ll just make you feel sadder temporarily. Even if you do feel down, try to keep yourself busy.
Just because one thing didn’t work out doesn’t mean you should give up on everything else.
Keep doing your thing, keep working hard, and keep aiming high.
7. Just Breathe
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is simply breathe.
You might be wondering, “But we’re always breathing, right? Why would I need to think about it?”
Well, I’m talking about something called shamanic breathwork. It’s about connecting our conscious and unconscious minds through our breath.
Our breath is special because it links our conscious and unconscious selves. While we can’t control things like digestion consciously, we can control our breathing.
By doing specific breathwork exercises consciously, you can release emotional pain, clear blockages, and let go of false beliefs about yourself.
You’ll realize that you don’t need to depend on anyone else.
I highly recommend checking out this free breathwork masterclass led by shaman Rudá Iandê.
8. Cut Out Self-Doubt
Doubting yourself is different from being honest about your abilities.
Acknowledging that you’re not the best dancer or cook and could get better is one thing, but feeling like you’re not worthy or capable is another.
Self-doubt can drain your confidence and happiness, especially when you need it most. When you feel self-doubt creeping in, it’s important to challenge it.
If you let it take hold, it can ruin everything and make situations like the one with this guy feel much worse.
As relationship writer Sabrina Alexis from A New Mode explains:
“When we have a fear or belief, our mind looks for evidence to support it, even if it’s harmful. We tend to focus on things that confirm our beliefs, like noticing when people aren’t nice to us and ignoring all the times when they are.”
9. Work On A New Project
Staying busy might sound easy, but it can be tough to do. That’s why it’s suggested starting a new project.
It could be anything you’re passionate about, like renovating your kitchen, learning to code, or planning a trip for next summer.
The key is to choose something that grabs your interest and keeps you busy for a while.
This isn’t just about distracting yourself from your feelings or ignoring them. It’s important to acknowledge your emotions, even if they’re painful.
But by throwing yourself into a new project, you’re taking control of your life, which is a crucial skill.
10. Don’t Let It Get To You
Feeling down is normal when a guy you like stops talking to you.
But don’t let it become your whole story.
Yes, it’s painful and unfair, but it doesn’t define you.
Stay chill and keep living your life. If he comes back, don’t let it shake you. And if he doesn’t, you’re already moving on.
11. Minimize Your Time On Social Media
When you’re hung up on a guy and haven’t heard from him in 2 weeks, you might want to solve the problem.
You might check his social media to see what he’s been up to, if he’s been with other girls, or what he’s been sharing.
But going down this road can be hard to come back from.
Even if he does call you back, you might get stuck in a pattern of possessiveness and depending on him to make you happy.
This isn’t the way to find true love and intimacy.
12. Become A Leader And Inspiration
If a guy isn’t paying attention to you, focus on becoming the kind of woman who’s out of his league.
Be a leader and inspire others around you.
Reconnect with your hobbies and things that bring you joy.
Instead of waiting for him to make a move, focus on being a positive influence in his life, no matter what happens.
13. Know Your Own Worth
You need to understand your own worth completely.
Exercise, be creative, take time for yourself.
Know your worth so well that it’s not shaken by how others treat you.
It’s sad that this guy is treating you poorly, but it doesn’t diminish your value at all.
If anything, it shows that he doesn’t recognize how amazing you are.
14. Meet Other Guys
If it’s been two weeks since you heard from him, it’s okay to start meeting other guys.
You can take things at your own pace, but no guy has the right to ignore you for that long.
You’re not someone who’s just available whenever he feels like it. You deserve respect, clear communication, and someone who commits their time to you.
If he can’t do that, then it’s time to find someone who will.
15. Have A Block Party
This is the last and most extreme thing you can do.
If this guy has ignored you and you’re unsure about him, it might be time to block him completely.
Once you decide to do this, stick to it and don’t change your mind.
Block his number, his messaging apps, and his social media accounts. Cut off all contact.
Unless he shows up at your door like a movie scene, you’re done with him. Now, you’re free to meet someone who deserves your time.
Wrapping UP
Your final choice is crucial:
Should you let go of this guy?
Honestly, it’s likely yes.
But – and this is important – sometimes, you might give up too quickly.
If you follow the steps above, you’re prepared to either welcome this guy back if he returns or move forward if he doesn’t.
