Yo, you broke up with your man, cried a river of tears, and now…he wants to be friends? What the heck is that about? Before you get all fired up and block his number, hear me out. This could actually be the best news ever if you’re trying to get back together!
I know, I know.
Being friends with an ex sounds about as fun as a root canal.
But stick with me here.
When a guy wants to keep you in his life after a breakup, even just as a friend, it usually means he’s not ready to let you go completely. He still cares about you and values your connection, even if things didn’t work out romantically (for now!).
And let’s be real, keeping that door open is key if you want another shot at making things work down the road. It’s way harder to rekindle things if you’ve completely cut him out of your life, right?
So before you go writing him off, think about giving this friends thing a try. Who knows, it could be the first step to reigniting that old flame!
But I’m getting ahead of myself here.
Want to know why being friends with an ex is actually a genius move?
Keep reading…
1. He Didn’t Like Being Alone
One of the biggest reasons your ex wants to stay friends is because he doesn’t like being alone. Seriously, have you met a guy who actually enjoys solitude? They get antsy if they’re not around people for too long. It’s like they need constant stimulation or something.
Think about it – when you were dating, your man probably hated it when you went out of town or had girls’ nights without him. He’d be blowing up your phone with “What are you up to?” texts every five seconds. Dude just can’t handle being a lone wolf for too long.
And that needy tendency doesn’t just go away after a breakup. If anything, it gets amplified because now he’s lacking that constant companionship you provided.
He’s lonelyyyyyy.
That’s why staying friends is so appealing – it’s a way to keep you in his life and fight off those solitary vibes he hates.
Don’t believe me?
Notice how he’s the one always initiating hangouts or texting you about random things? He just can’t quit you because that would mean being by himself. No thanks!
Of course, this can be a little suffocating if you’re trying to move on.
But look at the bright side – his fear of being alone means he values you bigtime. He’s not willing to let you go easily.
2. He Longs for Your Company
When a guy loves a girl, he wants to be around her.
If he suggests being friends again just to “catch up,” it could mean he wants more than just friendship – maybe not love, but something close.
He’ll want more than friendship because he’s missing the connection and wants to fill that gap in his life. He misses all the things that made your relationship special – like chatting every day and supporting each other.
Being friends without romance gives him time to realize how much he misses you, and then he can decide if he wants to be with you again.
3. He Feels Upset about Losing You
If your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends because he’s sad about losing you, it means he still cares about you.
He broke up because he wasn’t sure if he could be what you needed in the long run. It wasn’t about wanting to be single; he just wasn’t ready for commitment.
But if he still has feelings for you, he’s thinking there might be hope for your relationship. So, if he’s reaching out now, it shows your relationship meant something to him, and that’s a good sign for getting back together.
4. He Misses Being with Someone He Cares About
Being in love feels amazing, doesn’t it?
If a guy misses you, he’ll think there’s still a chance for you two.
Just like before, if he still likes you, it’s a good sign he wants to be friends to hang out more.
He might even still have feelings for you, but he wants to go slow. If he wants to be with you, he’ll say so. He’ll tell you he wants to bring back the love you both shared.
5. He Wants to Get to Know You Better
Some guys might think they’re just being polite by talking to their ex-girlfriend, but if they suggest being friends again, it’s a sign he wants to reconnect and understand you better.
He wants to know more about you – your family, friends, hobbies, and dreams – things he didn’t know before. Now that he’s learned more about you, he wants to deepen the connection.
It’s not uncommon for a guy who still wants to be with you after a breakup – and who asks if you could be more than friends again – to want to give the relationship another shot.
Now that he knows you better, he wants more than just friendship. If that’s the case, it’s a good sign.
6. He’s Afraid of Losing You Forever
What does he think will happen if you two don’t hang out again? Will you get back together? Will he miss his chance to be with you forever?
If your ex-boyfriend still really likes you, he might have a lot of worries. If he lets you go, he’ll have to move on and find someone else.
It also means he’ll have to accept that your relationship is over.
If he suggests being friends because he’s scared of losing you forever, it shows he still cares about you and isn’t ready to give up on the chance of getting back together.
7. He Wants to Keep You Interested
If your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends because he hopes you’ll still like him, that’s a good sign.
It shows he understands it’ll be tough to get back together if you don’t have feelings for him.
If he worries you might move on, he might ask to be friends now while he sorts out his life. Starting over as friends is easier than starting from scratch.
So if he’s reaching out to you again, it means he wants to keep you interested and make sure you’re in the right mindset to give him another chance.
8. He Misses the Person He Was with You
If your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends because he feels like a better person around you, it might mean something.
Every relationship helps us grow, and maybe your ex learned more from yours than he thought.
Sometimes, just being with someone can show them parts of themselves they didn’t know existed.
If he wants to spend time with you again, it means your relationship taught him something about himself – which is a good sign.
If he suggests hanging out again, it’s probably because he wants to figure out more about himself and why you were important to him – since you’re the only one who brings out that side of him.
9. He Wants to See How You’ve Grown
Your ex-boyfriend might want to be friends to see how you’ve changed.
If he’s been away for a while, he’ll probably want to see how you’ve matured.
He might also want to hang out now that you’ve had time to deal with the breakup.
Your ex wants to know how you’ve moved on and what you think now. He knows your relationship taught him something about himself – like how he sees life or other people.
He wants to see how your relationship made you better so he can keep growing too.
10. He Wants to Understand His Mistakes
If you’re still with your ex, you might not feel totally happy about how things are. You might want him to make some changes so you’re both happy.
If your ex wants to be friends to figure out what went wrong in the past, it’s a good sign.
He might have done things wrong because he didn’t know how to express himself or because he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship.
He might also want to learn from his mistakes so he can do better in the future.
So if your ex is reaching out to you now, it could mean he wants to fix things and understand himself better, so you both get along better in the future.
11. He Wants to Give Your Love Another Chance
If your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends now because he’s not ready for another serious relationship, it’s a good sign.
He’s taking time to plan and give himself a chance to move on when he’s ready.
If he’s still talking to you, it means he believes there’s hope for you two if things go well.
He thinks there’s a chance for things to get better if he sticks with you and tries to fix what went wrong in your relationship.
12. He Believes You’re the Best for Him
If your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends because he thinks no one else can compare to you, it’s a good sign.
He might feel bad about breaking up and know you deserve better. If he truly believes you’re the best for him, he’ll know what to do if he gets a chance to get back with you.
He’ll see it as a chance to get back what he lost and make your relationship even better than before.
13. He Wants to Make Things Right with You
If your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends because he feels bad about how he treated you, it’s a good sign.
He might have made mistakes he didn’t mean to while you were together.
If he believes he can fix things and make up for his mistakes, it shows he’s committed to staying close to you.
He’s thought a lot about himself during your relationship and now he wants to use what he’s learned to make things better.
Your ex is ready to try again because losing you made him realize how much you mean to him.
14. He Can’t Move On
If your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends because he’s still in love with you and can’t let go, it’s a good sign.
He believes nothing you shared together is replaceable. He’s probably thought about why your relationship ended or what he did wrong.
If he can’t move on, it means he’s stuck on you and wants you back in his life. He’s scared of losing the connection you had and doesn’t want to get over you.
15. He Wants to Demonstrate His Change
If your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends because he thinks you’ll be impressed by how much he’s changed, it’s a good sign.
He might have messed up before and now he wants another shot. If he believes you’d be impressed with his life now, it means he’s still thinking about you.
He might want to reconnect and show you how he’s improved, making sure you two stay close.
The breakup might have been what he needed to work on himself and become someone worthy of your love.
16. He Hopes to Repair Your Relationship
If your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends because he hates the idea of you being with someone else, it’s a good sign.
He might regret the time he lost with you and wants to make it right.
If he believes he missed his shot with you and now wants another chance to fix things and move on from his past, it shows he’s determined to make you happy, no matter what.
17. He Wants You Back
He wants you back – he’s just not sure how to show it.
The best way for him to tell you is by being honest. If he wants to be friends, he’ll tell you he misses you. He’ll say he wants to win your heart back and finish your love story.
This is a good sign you two could get back together.
If he admits he still likes you, it means he wants to be with you.
He might not know how to say it directly, but being friends again is the closest thing he can do. He’s telling you he still likes you and wants to take things slow.
Wrapping Up
The truth is, your ex-boyfriend might not want a relationship with you anymore. But if he suggests being friends again, it’s because he still cares about you.
He got caught up in the relationship and didn’t realize being friends might be better, all because he still loves you. Now that you have a chance to hang out again, he doesn’t want to miss it.
So if your ex-boyfriend wants to be friends, expect him to show a little more interest – and don’t waste this chance. The only way to know for sure if he wants to try again is to ask him directly.
Overall, whatever his reasons are for reaching out, he’s keeping his options open.
Sometimes, wanting to be friends could mean he wants to get back together, but it could also mean he’s trying to move on.
The best thing to do is take it slow with him to figure out what he wants.
Remember, reconnecting with an ex might take time – especially if you’re still hurting from the breakup. A lot can happen in between.
You might not know exactly why your ex wants to be friends, but it’s your decision if you want to give the relationship another shot or not.
